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Properly Put on a Male Condom

A condom works and feels great if you learn to put on and remove it properly. With practice, you can put a condom on in a few seconds.

When used consistently and correctly, male condoms can be up to 98% effective in preventing the transmission of sexually transmitted.

How should I use a condom?

Follow these guidelines

  • Use a new condom for every act of intercourse.
  • If the penis is uncircumcised, pull the foreskin back before putting the condom on.
  • Put the condom on after the penis is erect (hard) and before any contact is made between the penis and any part of the partner's body.
  • If the condom does not have a reservoir tip, pinch the tip enough to leave a half-inch space for semen to collect.
  • While pinching the half-inch tip, place the condom against the penis and unroll it all the way to the base. Put more lubricant on the outside.
  • If you feel a condom break while you are having sex, stop immediately and pull out. Do not continue until you have put on a new condom.
  • After ejaculation and before the penis gets soft, grip the rim of the condom and carefully withdraw from your partner.
  • To remove the condom from the penis, pull it off gently, being careful semen doesn't spill out.
  • Wrap the used condom in a tissue and throw it in the trash where others won't handle it. Because condoms may cause problems in sewers, don't flush them down the toilet. Afterwards, wash your hands with soap and water.
  • Finally, beware of drugs and alcohol! They can affect your judgment, so you may forget to use a condom. They may even affect your ability to use a condom properly.

Why Condoms Break

To prevent condoms from breaking, keep them away from heat and light, don't carry them in a wallet, don't open them with anything sharp (like scissors or teeth), and avoid using oils or lotions on them. The material used to make condoms can weaken over time, so check the expiration date and don't use one that has expired.

There are several reasons why a condom would break:

  • Too old. Modern condom wrappers have a date after which the condom should not be used.
  • Improper storage. Heat damages latex condoms, so they should not be kept in a hot place, such as a car glove compartment or wallet.
  • Not enough lubrication. Additional lubrication is always needed for rectal sex. It may also be needed for vaginal sex. The lubricant should be water-soluble, such as KY jelly.
  • The wrong kind of lubricant. Lubricants that contain oil -- such as Vaseline, baby oils, and vegetable oils -- should not be used with latex condoms since they weaken the rubber.
  • Too small. Try a larger size.
  • Partner too tight. Use an extra strength condom and more lubricant.

A condom may come off during sex because:

  • Condom too large. Try a snug condom.
  • Loss of erection. Remove your penis, holding on to the rolled edge of the condom, as soon as you begin to lose your erection.

Condom Size Chart Guide

The condom size chart is broken down to introduces the condom brand and name along with a brief description about each condom.

Due to the fact that every penis is different, one single comprehensive condom size chart seems impossible. Yet when it comes to condoms, size (and shape) is everything- for effective protection and pleasure.

The Condom Calculator

Quick Tip: if your penis girth is below 4.7 inches (119mm) check out the snugger fit section. Regular condoms will best suit you if your girth is between 4.7″–5.1″ (119-130mm). Guys with girth bigger than 5.1″ (130mm) should use a larger condom. Check out the condom calculator to get more accurate suggestions for your size. You can also read more about how to choose your size.

Using a personal lubricant

Never use an oil-based lube with latex condoms (this includes, baby oil, coconut oil, etc.) or you run the risk of condom breakage!

Water-based lubes are slippery and may need to be reapplied. They are easy to clean up with water. Look for high-quality (body safe) choices that state they are petrochemical-free, glycerin-free and paraben-free.

  • rinses off easily from skin and fabric
  • cheaper and easier to find than silicone-based lube

Silicone-based lubes are slick and can be used in water (hot tubs, showers, lakes, swimming pools). They are less likely to need multiple applications (in comparison to water-based lubes). They generally require soap and water for clean-up. Use them sparingly and avoid getting them on surfaces you don’t want to slip on later.

  • lasts longer than water-based lube
  • best for anal sex

Flavored lubes

  • usually a water-based lube with flavor added, often contains sugar
  • best for oral sex, especially when using a condom

What's the best kind of condom?

There are so many condoms out there, so many choices and so little time. There are condoms marketed and labeled as "ultrasensitive," and these are usually thinner and provide more warmth and direct contact. When you buy or choose condoms, look for the ones with the word "ultrasensitive." In addition, using water-based lubrication can increase the pleasure and decrease the risk of small tears or cuts that allow STDs and HIV entry into a partner.

There's a newish condom called Pleasure Plus that has a pouch near the head for larger and uncut penises. It also has ribs and lube on the pouch for extra sensation. On the Condomania web site can help you decide which to try. They also sell condom samplers so you can try a few and see which you like enough to buy more of.

Allergic to Latex Condoms?

Although a slight percentage (approximately 3%) of people are allergic to latex condoms Stop using latex rubbers and invest instead in polyurethane, tactylon or lambskin condoms. Keep in mind, however, that lambskin does not prevent the transmission of STDs.

Condom Shopping Guide

Use this handy shopping guide as a reminder of what to look for when buying condoms and lubricants.

Always be sure to choose:
[X] Latex or polyurethane, including the female condom
[X] Disease prevention claim on package label

Also consider:
[ ] With lubricant
[ ] Separate lubricant (Select only water-based lubricants made for this purpose.)

Semen Leakage

  • Semen leakage is caused by a weakening of the parasympathetic sexual nerve that keeps the ejaculation valve closed and maintains the erection. If not taken care of, it's possible that maintaining an erection can become a problem as well.
  • To hold the erection up and tighten the ejaculation valve, you need a basic resting potential in the parasympathetic sexual motoring nerve and a continuous burst of testosterone to charge the nerves during sex. Testicular stimulation during intercourse can help the testosterone burst, and increase penile power and combat seminal leakage that often contributes to premature ejaculation (not to mention potential embarrassment in front of a partner).
  • There are herbal supplements that can help you achieve the quality sex you want by providing an increase in testosterone as fuel. Good luck.

Tips and Advice on Anal Sex


The truth about barebacking

Barebacking usually refers to a conscious and deliberate choice to forgo condoms.

On barebacking, my boyfriend (top) has had three negative tests over nine months and I have had one. Are we pretty well OK? If you mean negative HIV tests, then it is unlikely that either of you are HIV infected, but to be sure, both partners need to be monogamous and you should get another test. The risk of barebacking, however, goes beyond HIV. People can transmit herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis and chlamydia to each other, too -- so both partners should also be tested and treated, if infected, for these infections. There should be testing of the urine and rectum for gonorrhea and chlamydia. Both of these are treatable infections and can lay dormant in your body without symptoms. Ask your doctor for a full spectrum of STD tests for the different places you have sex -- throat, penis and/or rectum. If either of you are barebacking with each other and having other partners, it's important to have safe sex with the other partners so you don't bring anything home.

Heterosexual bareback

The term bareback sex is used less frequently among heterosexuals. A survey by the New York City Department of Health and Mental Hygiene found that heterosexual women are more likely to bareback when engaging in anal sex than homosexual and bisexual men are. Heterosexual bareback sex, as opposed to sex with condoms, poses an increased risk of STIs whether vaginally or anally, and an increased risk of pregnancy via penetration of the vagina.

Bareback (sex) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bareback_%28sex%29

The Gift (2003 film) 62 minutes

Documentary (English)
Louise Hogarth
Dream Out Loud Productions


Gift Giver: HIV positive man who gives The Gift of HIV infection.
Bug CHaser: HIV negative man who deliberately becomes infected with HIV.
Barebacking: Deliberate high risk sex with disregard for HIV infection.

The Gift documents the phenomenon of deliberate HIV infection. The film follows the stories of two "bug chasers" who sought out "the gift" of HIV infection. Also interviewed are AIDS activist and author, Walt Odets, PhD, and HIV+ and HIV- men. The film explores the normalization and glamorization of HIV/AIDS and discusses the isolation and division caused by HIV status in the gay community.

Doug, a central character of the film is a bright, articulate young man who moved from the Midwest to San Francisco in search of a gay community. He became a bug chaser and actively sought The Gift of HIV infection.

Best Documentary Newfest Lesbian & Gay (New York City) Best Documentary - Santa Barbara Lesbian & Gay Film Best Documentary and Best Feature Film (2nd place) Audience Award Q! Film Festival, Jakarta International Film Festival (Indonesia) Louise Hogarth, one of twenty Iconoclasts, picked by Seed Magazine - A Portfolio of the Icons & Iconoclasts who Redefined Science in 2003.


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